It’s 3:47 PM. Your little one has just filled the fresh diaper for the third time, the four-year-old spills juice all over the sofa, and you notice your shoulders creeping up to your ears. Your breath becomes shallow, your head is pounding – and you ask yourself: How am I going to manage all of this?

This is exactly why I developed the 3-Minute Reset. No hours of meditation, no yoga retreats – just three minutes that bring you back from survival mode to your power.

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Why Three Minutes Are Enough – The Science Behind It

Maybe you’re thinking: Three minutes? That can’t possibly make a difference! But just the opposite is true. Our nervous system responds immediately to targeted calming signals – when we know which levers to pull.

The 60-60-60 Framework utilizes three scientifically based approaches:

  • 60 seconds of breathing: Activates the vagus nerve and signals your body: "Danger is over."
  • 60 seconds of body: Relieves muscular tension and interrupts the stress cycle.
  • 60 seconds of thoughts: Brings your brain from disaster mode into the present.

This tripartition is not a coincidence: it addresses all three levels at which stress manifests – physiological, physical, and mental. And the best part? You need nothing but yourself.

The 60-60-60 Reset: Your Step-by-Step Guide

Phase 1: Breathing (60 seconds)

Imagine your breath is a gentle wave rolling onto a beach – slow, rhythmic, unstoppable. This is how you should breathe now:

  • Inhale for 4 seconds through your nose (internally count: 1-2-3-4).
  • Hold for 4 seconds (without strain, very gently).
  • Exhale for 6 seconds through your slightly open mouth (as if through a straw).
  • Pause for 2 seconds before the next inhale.

Repeat this cycle four times. Feel how with each exhale a little tension fades from your shoulders. Your heartbeat slows down after just 30 seconds – this is not imagination, this is physiology.

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Phase 2: Body (60 seconds)

Now comes the Progressive Muscle Relaxation in Fast Forward. You can do this standing, seated, or even holding the baby:

  • 0-20 seconds: Raise your shoulders up to your ears, hold for 5 seconds, then let them drop. Feel the difference. Repeat once.
  • 20-40 seconds: Clench your fists tightly, tense your arms, hold for 5 seconds, release. Shake out your hands.
  • 40-60 seconds: Flex your toes towards you, tense your legs for 5 seconds, then relax. Repeat once.

This conscious tension and relaxation shows your body the difference – and makes the relaxation palpable. You’re literally training your nervous system.

Phase 3: Thoughts (60 seconds)

Now you bring your mind back from the thought carousel into the here and now. Use the 5-4-3-2-1 technique:

  • 5 things you see: Internally name five things you see ("Blue cup. Toy car. Light spot on the wall...").
  • 4 things you hear: Listen for four sounds (bird chirping, refrigerator humming, your own breath...).
  • 3 things you feel: Notice three bodily sensations (feet on the ground, clothing against your skin, a draft...).
  • 2 things you smell: Notice two scents (coffee, baby powder, fresh air...).
  • 1 thing you taste: Focus on one taste (or lick your lips).

This exercise anchors you in the present moment – away from "What if" and "I should have," towards "I am here, I am okay."

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How to Integrate the Reset into Your Mom Routine

The best routine is the one you actually do. Here are five perfect moments for your 3-Minute Reset:

  • After breastfeeding/feeding: While your baby is still full and content – use this quiet minute.
  • After changing: Before you dive back into chaos, take three minutes for yourself.
  • In the car before picking up at daycare: Instead of rushing out immediately, take a moment to breathe.
  • In the bathroom: Yes, really! Sometimes the bathroom is the only retreat.
  • Before falling asleep: Helps you let go of the day and sleep better.

Pro Tip: Set an anchor for yourself – for example: "Whenever I put away the diaper bag, I do my reset." That way, it becomes a habit without you having to think about it.

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Your Emergency Calming Technique On-The-Go

Sometimes you don’t even have three minutes in a row. For these moments, there’s the 60-Second Emergency Version:

  • 20 seconds: Three deep breaths (4 seconds in, 6 seconds out).
  • 20 seconds: Raise and drop your shoulders three times.
  • 20 seconds: Name five things you see.

This short version can be done anywhere – at the supermarket checkout, in the waiting room at the pediatrician, even while your child is sitting on your lap.

Download the wallet card (link in the bio), laminate it, and keep it in your wallet. This way, you’ll always have the guide with you – even if your phone battery is dead.

Why the Reset Really Works (And What Mothers Are Reporting)

"I thought I needed at least 20 minutes of yoga to calm down," Sarah, mom of two toddlers, tells me. "But this reset showed me: My body wants to calm down – I just need to give it the right signals."

That’s the core: Your nervous system is designed to return to balance after stress. The 60-60-60 framework simply gives it permission and guidance.

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Frequently Asked Questions about the 3-Minute Reset

What if I'm interrupted in the middle of the exercise?
No problem! Even 60 seconds of conscious breathing help. Just restart when you can – or do the emergency version.

Do I have to do all three phases?
Ideally yes, as they reinforce each other. But if you only have time for one: Breathe is the most effective single exercise.

Can I also do the reset preventively?
Absolutely! Doing it three times a day preventively is better than ten times in an emergency. This teaches your nervous system to relax more quickly.

What if I fall asleep while doing it?
Then you obviously need sleep! Enjoy the break. The reset can also be a gentle aid for falling asleep.

Your First Reset – Right Now

You don’t have to wait for the "right moment." Do your first 3-Minute Reset right now:

  • Set a timer for three minutes.
  • Don’t close this page – read the instructions again.
  • Then: close your eyes, start the timer, and begin.

Afterwards, you'll feel: Your shoulders are softer. Your breath is calmer. Your head is clearer. That is your new superpower – and it’s only three minutes away.

Save this page as a bookmark. Share it with a mom friend who’s struggling. And above all: Use it. Because you deserve these three minutes – every single day.